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Mary Lou Butcher: Interview #1

July 26, 1992 in

Jo Blatti, Interviewer

Mary Lou Butcher July 26, 1992 Tape 1 of 2

July 26th, 1992
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Blatti: Okie doke. Can we start with your upbringing and where you were born and raised? Let's

start with that. Where were you born?

Butcher: Okay. I was born in Detroit on May 18th, 1943. Was the youngest of eight children. I

was the only one in my family to be born in a hospital, Lincoln Hospital in Detroit, which no

longer exists. But all the rest of my brothers and sisters were born at home.

Blatti: What was your, what kind of neighborhood? I don't, I don't know Detroit very well. So,

can you situate me in terms of the neighborhood you lived in?

Butcher: Okay. Well, I was born in the city, but I actually grew up downriver, downriver Detroit in

a community called Lincoln Park, Michigan. Has a population, I believe, around 65,000, and I

lived in a very nice, I guess, a middle class neighborhood. And we had a fairly big home. But

actually, I guess when you think about eight kids, it wasn't all that big. It was two stories, and we

had three bedrooms upstairs and a big living room, dining room, and kitchen.

Blatti: And was this a new development after the war, or was it an older neighborhood?

Butcher: No, actually, I believe my parents moved there in the ‘40s. And at the time they moved

there, it was a relatively undeveloped area. They had, they had lived in the city of Detroit until

that time. And when they moved to Lincoln Park, it was, the homes were very far apart.

And I guess as they grew, as the neighborhood grew and filled in, there were a number of

homes built. We became just like any other residential area, with a lot of homes right across

from one another. But we did, we did have a beautiful, big side lot on our house. In fact, we

were the second home from the corner, and at one time, my parents owned the corner lot as

well, and then later sold it to a neighbor.

But we were fortunate that we had a little more green around us, maybe more than the typical

residential home did at that time. And we had a great big fat tree that was kind of a centerpiece

on the side yard.

Blatti: Now, can you describe your parents for me, their names and what they did and…..

Butcher: Sure. My mom was named Ethel Losancy Butcher, and my father was Alexander

Butcher. He was really Alexander Mészáros with a Hungarian surname. But changed it

translated to Butcher.

Blatti: That’s what Mészáros means in English?

Butcher: Yes, it means butcher. And so at some point, I think in the early in their marriage,

maybe in the ‘20s, they, my father, legally changed it to, to Butcher.

And I often think about how my whole life may have been affected because we're, because of

where I fell on the alphabet, falling in with the b’s instead of the m’s. But, anyway, they were

both from Hungary. They were both Hungarian immigrants. So, I'm a first-generation American

here.

They, my dad came to the States when he was about ten with an aunt, I believe. And my mother

came when she was about 16 or 17.

Blatti: By herself or with family?

Butcher: She came with my grandmother and her three brothers.

My grandfather had earlier emigrated to the US to see if he could raise the funds to bring the

whole family here. And, he, he had heard all those fantastic stories about the automobile

factories and Henry Ford's $5 a day. And that seemed like a big sum at that time, I guess. And

so he came ahead of time and the money for, for passage for the rest.

Blatti: Did he in fact work in the Ford plant?

Butcher: He did for a while. In later years, and when I, when I knew him, he really lived on a

farm. They had a farm in Bellville, Michigan, which is now getting to be more built up than it was

at that point. But it's not too far from Detroit Metropolitan Airport in the Romulus area.

It's sort of on the way to Ann Arbor.

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Blatti: Okay. I recognize the highway sign.

Butcher: Yeah. If you were going on I-94.

But anyway, my parents were pretty special people. I think they, they met, my dad was eight

years older than my mom, and they met in this country. I guess they both lived in the Del Rey

section of Detroit, which was a sort of a Hungarian community.

Blatti: Is there a big Hungarian community in Detroit? I'm, I'm very familiar with Polish-American

communities throughout the upper Midwest, but I, I don't happen to know very much about

Hungarian communities.

Butcher: Well, I think it was fairly sizable. And that was probably an area where they first, you

know, found countryman and shared a lot of experience.

And there's still some Hungarian restaurants here that play the Hungarian music. And at the

time that I was growing up, there was Hungarian hour on the weekends where they would play

Hungarian music on the radio. I don't know if that still exists or not, but we would often take

Sunday drives to my grandparents’ home and, and play that music.

But anyway, I would say, as I said, my, my parents were pretty special in that they managed to,

to raise a family of eight kids and gave us all a lot of love, and I think a lot of ambition. They

always kind of encouraged us to, to get an education and to, you know, strive for a better life.

They, in terms of their own education, my father had, I think, all he had completed, eighth grade

of formal education. But he later went on to, he later went on to get his GED, and then he took

special classes, I think, in drafting and that sort of thing. He, he became a tool inspector at Ford

Motor Company.

He probably had other positions before he got to that job, but his formal education really was

only to the eighth grade, but then... Oh, I, I neglected to mention that when he first came to,

when he first came to the States, he lived in Pennsylvania and lived with his father and

stepmother.

My, my mother came immediately to Detroit with, with her family. And my mother did finish high

school, and she was always a very avid reader. She really devoured books and newspapers,

and I, maybe that's where I got my love of reading and language.

Blatti: Do you remember what kinds of things she read?

Butcher: I think she read everything that she could get her hands on. I think she, she liked to be

informed, as I do, about what's going on in the world. And so she read newspapers avidly, and

she, I don't remember any specific books right now, but I, I know that she did read a lot of

books.

Blatti: Did you grow up in a bilingual household? Was Hungarian spoken and read in your

house?

Butcher: Yes. Although just by my parents. We always used to, we always used to laugh about

the fact that, when they didn't want us to know what they were saying, they would speak it,

speak in Hungarian.

And, they, they spoke Hungarian to my grandparents on visits, and they had other family and

friends that spoke Hungarian. We had some neighbors right across the street that were

Hungarian. And so they would frequently speak the language to them. It was ironic because I

think when, when we got older, as young adults, teenagers, young adults, my parents would

say, “Why don't you learn Hungarian?” And we would always say, “Why didn't you teach us. you

know, when we were younger?”

But I think there was a very concerted effort on their part to encourage their children to speak

English, particularly my older brothers and sisters. Because I think they saw what had happened

to children of other immigrants who didn't master the English language when they went to

school. And so I think there was this, a conscious effort on their part to make sure that we were

very fluent in English. The only one in my family that I know of that, my immediate family that

speaks Hungarian is my oldest brother, Ernest, who lives who now lives in Mexico City. But he

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spent some summers with my grandparents on the farm, and I think he picked it up basically on

those experiences.

Blatti: Can you describe the rest of your siblings for me, so that I have a kind of a list of who

they are, and maybe where they are now, as a way of kind of understanding?

Butcher: Sure. Well, as I'm I mentioned, I'm the youngest of eight children, and there was a big

age spread in my family. My oldest brother was about 21 years older than I am, and his name is

Ernest Butcher, and he now lives in Mexico City.

Blatti: What does he do there?

Butcher: He's an engineer. He, he had his own business for a while and then sold it, and now

has his own business again. But he basically has specialized in building cooling towers for

industry. And has found it a good market for that product in Mexico.

And he married, he married a woman who grew up in Mexico City, which is how he ended up

there.

And then the next oldest in my family was my sister Anna, and she was about 20 years, 19 to 20

years older than I. And, she became sort of a second mom to me after my, my own mother died.

My mother died when I was aged 24. And, unfortunately, she died in 1980. She died rather

young. She died at aged 54 herself.

And she was a very devoted mother, wife, and homemaker. But she also had studied chemical

engineering at the University of Detroit. She didn't finish, didn't get her degree because of

financial, a lack of financial resources at the time. But I think she was very, she was very, very,

very bright, but then very, very devoted to the, her home life of her family.

But she also played, played baseball and softball at the time, back in the ‘40s and ‘50s. And,

this current movie that's just come out, A League of Their Own, is one that I'm very anxious to

see because….

Blatti: Was she on one of the women's exhibition teams?

Butcher: Well, I don't think she was in, in that league, exactly. But she was very active in a

women's softball league. I have to find out more about it from my brother-in-law, who still

survives.

Then I have another brother, Robert Butcher, who was an attorney. He's 65 or 66 right now. And

he has a large family. They live in Grosse Ile.

Blatti: I don't know, is that a suburb of Detroit?

Butcher: Yes. I probably should back up. My sister's married name was Anna Palmeri, and

they lived in Macomb County in Roseville, Michigan.

My brother Bob and his wife Gladys live in Grosse Ile, Michigan, which is also in the downriver

area. And they had five boys and one daughter.

I’d better not tell you about all my brothers, sisters, and all the kids, because there are so many

more.

Blatti: We’ll concentrate on the siblings. All right?

Butcher: Okay. And then I have a sister, Betty, and she's living in Garden City, Michigan, and

she has raised a sizable family, and has also worked until recently at a variety of office

positions. And she was working in the Wayne County clerk's office until she retired recently.

And I have a brother, Joe, Joe Butcher, who lives not too far from here, lives in Southfield,

Michigan. And he's in computers and computers, computer equipment sales.

And then I have a brother, Paul, who's a dentist. Has a practice in the downriver area. He lives

in Dearborn, Michigan. Has a practice in Island Park. And he has been my dentist ever since,

ever since I've been a student, actually. When I was, I think, in grade school, I think he was, he

was studying at U of D Dental School, and I would take the bus and, and be his practice patient.

He provided me with free dental care during my high school and college years, and I go to him

regularly.

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Blatti: Must be nice to have that kind of professional in the family.

Butcher: It is at times because he's a very good dentist, and he is very gentle. And if you have

an emergency, sometimes he’ll make special hours or special arrangements for it.

And then my brother Michael, who is, was closest in age to me, was six years older than I am.

Was someone I have a, I've had a very special bond with, and sadly, he died last December

26th of lung cancer. We, we shared a lot in our growing-up years.

Blatti: Now, was he in this area, too?

Butcher: Yes. He was. Well, he was living in Southfield, Michigan, just before he died. But prior

to that, he was living in Petoskey, in northern Michigan. He was in real estate development. He

was an attorney and then, specializing in tax attorney and as a tax attorney, and then he went

into real estate development. And so he developed a lot of property in northern Michigan, which

is why they moved up there. And then they moved back recently. Fortunately for me, during the

time that he became ill, he was ill for about a year before he died, and I was able to spend more

time with him than I had in a long time.

And so we, we did have the opportunity to, to be together. And also because I wasn't working

full time, I was in the position to take him to a lot of his radiation treatments and, and then to, we

had a lot of very pleasant lunches and reminisced a lot this past year before he died. So we had

some special time together.

Blatti: Well, one of the things that's really striking in the kind of description of your family is that

everybody in your generation seems to have received quite a bit of education and gone on in

the world. It makes me wonder, did your parents have expectations that you all kind of… Were

you aware of receiving messages about what you were supposed to do and how you were

supposed to do it as you were growing up?

Butcher: Well, I think that we were all fortunate in that we were all encouraged to strive to get a,

a higher education if we could, and to get a chance to compete for, you know, a professional

job. And it was with a lot of love and support, but it was also with the understanding that we'd

probably have to work our way through to do this, because my parents, you know, with the kind

of job my father had and the size of the family, certainly, they certainly didn't have the resources

to send us to college, but, they gave us all the, I think the support that you could imagine in

terms of making this a goal. Education was a goal.

You know, being the best that you could be, I think, was always something that was, something

to, that we were encouraged to strive for. And, you know, to the extent that they could provide

room and board, they could, you know, maybe provide you with extras, they would. But most of

us worked our way through or got loans to go through, or a combination of those two things.

And I can remember from a very early age, apparently, I did very well even early on,

academically. And I was always encouraged by my parents to think of, you know, applying for

scholarships, and I know Ford Motor Company had, had some scholarships for children of

employees. And, you know, that was always something that I was encouraged to think about.

Maybe you can get a scholarship from Ford. Well, as it worked out, I never, I never was able to

get one from Ford. But I was successful in getting a number of scholarships from the University

of Michigan when I went there. And also was successful in getting a student loan, and I also

worked all the way through college. But, you know, there was always an expectation that, you

know, we would have to, you know, work to help pay for education, but that it could be done.

You know, I think maybe that, that was a very common attribute of immigrants who brought their

kids here, or moved here and raised their families here to have a better life, you know, have a

better chance at success and financial well-being than the parents.

Blatti: Did your family stay in touch with Hungarian relatives in Eastern Europe? Did you have a

sense of family on both sides of the Atlantic, or was it pretty much centered here?

Butcher: Well, I think that there was some correspondence, but probably more of the, you

know, the older relatives. And so, I think as time went on, there was less and less connection

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back there. And since my, my grandparents were here, I think that their, their focal point was,

was in the, in the US and in Michigan for my mother's side of the family.

And my dad's family was based in Pennsylvania. So, there was communication within the

relatives in the US, particularly, and friends.

Blatti: You were just describing Lincoln Park to me as a neighborhood that had been built up

during the time that your family lived there. I wonder what it was like, culturally, in terms of the

neighborhood schools and who your friends were? You also mentioned that one of the

neighbors was Hungarian, and I wondered, was it a neighborhood that had a real Eastern

European identity? Was it lots more mixed up with that than that? What did it seem like to you

as you were growing up?

Butcher: Okay, I don't think it was particularly ethnic. I just, I think, I think we were just lucky

enough to have some Hungarian neighbors across the street. And it's funny because their name

was Celonte, too. And, Frank and Ethel Celonte. And the woman’s name was Ethel, which was

my mother's name. And I identified real strongly with her, and she, she was like a little second

mother to me, too, in a way, maybe about the same age as my parents.

She would often invite me over to visit with her, maybe watch her bake cookies or sew, sewing

projects. And they had a little dog that I used to like, a little cocker spaniel. But they, they had a

couple of older kids who were more the ages of some of my older brothers and sisters, so they

didn't have any kids my age. But, I think that there was a mixture of people, but, and not, not

one particular ethnic group or not real, real strong ethnic of any type was just kind of a mixture.

That's all I could say, I guess.

Blatti: Was it a neighborhood again, since I don't know Detroit all that well in terms of its, its

neighborhoods. Was this a neighborhood in which a lot of people worked at the Ford plant, or,

was it all sorts of different kinds of occupations?

Butcher: Yeah, I think that there were quite a number that worked at the Ford plant and maybe

other auto plants, and maybe some of the steel companies, because downriver is noted for a lot

of the steel companies.

Blatti: Now, did your mother work outside the home or was she primarily based in the house?

Butcher: Well, during the time that I knew her, she always worked at home. I believe that before

they were married, she did have a number of different jobs outside the home. And I don't, I don't

know if she ever worked when they were in their early marriage years, but. And I know she

worked, I think, doing some sewing in some kind of factory or plant. I'm not sure which.

Blatti: What was your family active in, religious or political, or some other kind of community

group? Was that part of your growing up to..?

Butcher: Yeah. Well, we were raised Catholic. We belong to St. Henry's Parish in Lincoln Park.

And in fact, I went, ended up going to St. Henry School from the second grade on till eighth

grade. My father was not Catholic, but was very good about driving all the kids to church on

Sunday and that sort of thing.

I think this may be more of a center of social life, probably was the American Legion, which was

based on Southfield Road, just a few miles from our house, maybe two or three miles. And I

think my dad participated in a lot of gatherings at different times with other veterans.

Blatti: Now, was he a veteran of World War II or World War I?

Butcher: We'd have to, World War I, and/or after World War I. I'm not, I'm not quite clear on the

dates, but...

Blatti: Do you know? Did he serve in the American military as an avenue for citizenship? I, I

know some men did. I wondered if that would...

Butcher: Yeah, I think he might have already been a citizen. Let me think this through. I don't

think that's why he did it. I think, I think he, he came here at age ten. So I think it was he was

going to be a U.S. citizen or may have been a U.S. citizen through his father or..

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Blatti: As the son of a naturalized…?

Butcher: Yeah, I think that's what happened. But I'm just not clear on the dates right now, when

he was actually in the military.

Blatti: Do you know what year he came to this country?

Butcher: He came probably about 1905. He was born in 1895 or 1896. I have to check the

date. And he came over about ten.

Blatti: So, in fact, he would have been just old enough to serve in World War I.

Butcher: Yeah, he very likely did. And I think I've seen some pictures of him in his uniform, and

he, because I said it was somewhat tied into events or gatherings with the American Legion.

And my mother liked for her, her social, pleasure she liked to play bingo. And they would often

have bingo nights on Friday night at the American Legion, and sometimes maybe twice a week.

And, she would go to those when she could.

And then there were, I'm sure, they had social events for, for couples as well that they went to.

In fact, that's where my oldest sister Ann got married, at the American Legion Hall, or got

married at the church and had a reception there. And I was a flower girl in her wedding. I

remember it being a great party.

Blatti: Did growing up with a lot of older brothers and sisters did, did, did you hear a lot about,

kind of politics or other kinds of current events at the dinner table, or was that part of your

family's…? I guess I'm looking for things that might have set you on a, you know, path toward

being interested in communications and journalism. And wonder if there were any memories

from childhood, hearing about things, or being aware of a public side of the world?

Butcher: Well, that's a good, good thing to think back on. If you put it in context of when I was

born in May of 1943, obviously, we were in the middle of the war.

My oldest brother, Ernie, was in the military, and my brother Bob was in the military either right

then or shortly thereafter. Ernie was in the Army Air Force, and Bob was in the Marines.

So, when I was really young, some of my older siblings weren't there, you know, they were, they

were in the military.

So, by the time I would probably be aware of a lot of discussion, the issues would probably be

late, you know, late ‘40s, early ‘50s. And I remember certainly the, the Eisenhower - Kefauver

campaign and things like that.

I remember, remember when we first got a radio. I remember when we first got a television.

Blatti: When did you first get a radio?

Butcher: Well, actually, I should say when we first got a first, got a new radio, which was a big,

stand-up type of radio.

And my brother Bob brought it home one night. I'm not sure how or where he got it, but it was

like a bigger and better radio that I used to listen to, you know, things like The Lone Ranger and

other, other great, serial programs on.

Blatti: How old would you have been around them?

Butcher: Well, what I'm thinking back about that, I think that had to be probably, you know,

when I was five or six, something like that.

And I just remember my sister Betty stayed up all night, because she couldn't figure out how to

turn it off. [laughter]

And my brother Bob said, “You could have gone to bed. Didn't make any difference if it was on

or off,” but she felt a duty to stay up with it. [laughter]

Blatti: Oh, that's funny.

Butcher: Then, I remember we got a television, and when we got the television, it had to be, I

think, around 1950 or ‘51. So I would have been seven or eight years old. This would be, was a

little black and white TV, Halifax brand, which doesn't exist anymore, I'm sure. But that was a

big, big step into a different world.

Blatti: Do you remember early shows that you watched on it?

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Butcher: Oh, sure, I watched Howdy Doody and…. What other kids’ shows were on at that

time? I don't know, but I, I have strong recollections of Princess Summer Winter Fall Spring.

Blatti: Oh, yes, I do too, I do too. I know the other one I remember from that period of my own

life is Captain Video, who I remember went back in time like….

Butcher: Oh, really?

Blatti: … every program, you'd go back in time to some particular event or some particular

place that's, you know.

Did your, just to return to the radio and the TV for a minute? Did your family watch, like, listen to

the radio, or watch TV together as a group? Or was it more kind of whoever happened to be

home or..?

Butcher: I think there were a lot of shows that we listened to together. The Lone Ranger

somehow stands out in my mind because I guess that must have been one of my favorites. I

think there must have been other mysteries or series-type programs that we listened to

regularly.

And we listened to, you know, different music. And that was probably determined by who had

control of the radio at the moment.

Blatti: Who do you remember? Was the, were these things that your parents controlled or your

older siblings, or was it much more, kind of negotiated?

Butcher: I think, probably seemed to me, you know, more siblings… I don't remember, you

know, like my parents, you know, dominating it. But I think there were just things that we, we

grew to make as a habit.

And, of course, you know, as I was, as I was growing up my, my other brothers and sisters were

growing up and moving out of the house into either college or marriage. And so, they might be,

they might be back and forth. They wouldn't, we wouldn't all be there as we'd have a lot of big,

Sunday dinners, a lot of big family dinners, you know, as they got married and, and began

having their own families.

In time, then there were grandkids coming along too and, and in fact my, one of my nieces

who's just seven years difference in age, seven years younger. You know, she, she came along

at a time that kind of, maybe disrupted my status as the youngest child in the house. Because

when my sister, this was my sister Ann’s daughter, Carol. When she, she was working, my

mother babysat for her. So I remember being the, you know, the youngest for a long time. And

then all of a sudden, I had a niece who became the youngest in the house. And we've had a lot

of friendly rivalry over the years.

Blatti: Kind of shared the spotlight.

Butcher: Yeah. Probably vied for my mother's attention.

Blatti: You mentioned that you remember the Eisenhower - Kefauver, election? And I wondered,

do you remember knowing your family's politics or being aware of, you know, how they thought

about..?

Butcher: Oh, yeah, my parents were always Democrats. My father was a big supporter of the

unions and always very democratic. I think there was always the, the feeling that the Democrats

were more on the, on the side of the underdog. And, you know, they probably felt in that

category, since they were immigrants and, you know, autoworkers supported, and, you know,

really having to stretch, really having to stretch the dollars to feed this, this family.

And, you know, I think they had very fond memories of Roosevelt. A lot, you know, a lot of that

stuff had happened during those periods before me, or before, you know, I was really

recognizing what was happening in the world of politics. I think that was very formative, you

know, on the parents.

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And, of course, they had lived through the depression and had to really struggle at that period.

Yes. I heard a lot of stories. I heard a lot of stories about the depression, and yeah, I, I think it

probably had a lifelong impact on them, as I'm sure did most people of that generation.

Blatti: Are there one or two stories that are really kind of emblematic of, I mean, kind of that you

can remember now that were just real important in your family explaining things?

Butcher: Well, let me think about that. I remember that my, my parents opened a restaurant for

a while during prohibition. And so what, what time period are we talking about? Late ‘20s.

Blatti: Yeah, prohibition came in, I'm not sure I have the exact date right, but it was in the ‘20s,

and it was repealed by the Roosevelt administration. I think maybe 1919 is when I'd have to….

We'll have to check it.

Butcher: Well, in any case, they, my mother was a fabulous cook, and she was, she was really

great in that department.

And apparently they decided to try, try to have a restaurant, and they found that people would

rather ... Their experience was that people would rather pay a lot more money for booze than

they did for good food.

So I think that's one lesson I always learned was don't open any restaurants, that it's a very hard

life. Yeah, it's very difficult to make a go of it.

Blatti: Do you have any sense of how long they worked at that?

Butcher: I don't know, I don't think it was terribly long. I think, you know, it might have been.

They might have tried it for a year or so, give or take, you know. But, I, I'd say, probably,

probably, good food was very important in our family, partly because I think both my, my, mom

and dad, you know, came from, meager beginnings.

I, they came from small villages in Hungary where, you know, there wasn't enough, always

enough to go around, or the, the children were kind of given, given the last. Not the first, you

know, if there was meat left after the adults ate, they would get it. If not, they didn't have it.

And so I think both my mom and dad were really prided themselves on being able to provide for

their kids what they didn't have in terms of nourishment and emotional satisfaction from good

meals.

And as I mentioned, my mother was just a wonderful cook and loved to cook and loved to bake

and, you know, have these wonderful, hearty meals and have all the family around.

Blatti: Was, was her cooking Hungarian style, or was it a mix of Hungarian and kind of Middle

American? Do you remember it being...?

Butcher: Yeah, I would say so. You know, she certainly had several, several dishes that were

very authentic Hungarian, very traditional Hungarian, things like stuffed cabbage and chicken

paprikash. And she had a wonderful, green bean soup, though somehow I think, you know,

came out of her background. But then she made wonderful things like Spanish rice and pork

chops and all kinds of other wonderful roasts and things like that.

But she also cooked, I mean, baked extremely well, and made a lot of sort of ethnic pastries that

my, my grandmother would make as well when I was growing up. But, she, she really liked to do

that. And she really liked to entice the family to eat them.

Blatti: I'm getting kind of hungry.

Butcher: She also made wonderful, fresh, deep-fried donuts with powdered sugar.

Blatti: Let me turn this over.

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Blatti: And you mentioned that you went to St. Henry's, do I have that right, St. Henry's

Parochial School?

Butcher: I went to a public school in kindergarten and first grade.

Blatti: Now, is there some particular reason that your family switched you into parochial school

that you're aware of?

Butcher: Yeah, I went to kindergarten in first grade at Raupp School, which was just, I don't

know, a half a mile to a mile from our house, where we walked every day. And that's where most

of my older brothers and sisters had gone. And I was going to catechism once a week on

Mondays at St. Henry’s. If you went to public school, you usually went once a week for

catechism.

And this one nun that we had one time in the catechism class just sort of encouraged us to ask

our parents if the kind of we could go to Catholic school.

And so I did, and they said, “Yes.” I don't even know that I had the expectation that they would.

But, you know, there was a tuition factor there that wasn't there for the public schools. But

apparently, at that point, I was, you know, I was the youngest child at home, and maybe having

less children in the household allowed my parents to be able to pay for the tuition. I don't think it

was terribly great by today's standards of what tuition might cost, but to them, I'm sure it was,

you know, somewhat of a sacrifice.

Blatti: Did you have, do you remember, as you know, you're thinking about, elementary school

if you had particular, favorite teachers or subjects that you can remember now?

Butcher: Well, I always had a real interest in, in writing, I guess. And the way I became

interested in becoming a reporter, I think, is, it's from a couple of factors. One was the fact that I

apparently wrote well. I got good grades on my papers, and things like that. And so I was

encouraged to think that I was a good writer or that I had potential as a writer.

And then, I belonged to a group on the playground. We had a group of friends in our class, I'd

say from about maybe fourth or fifth grade on, I tended to hang around with about seven or

eight different girls and, and, one of the girls named Diane Andrews. I'd love to know where she

is someday so I could reminisce with her, but. I remember her saying on the playground one day

that she wanted to be a reporter, and I thought that sounded really neat. And I sort of adopted

that for my goal. But the thing is, I had some sort of a conflict, too, because at one point I

thought I might want to be a nun. But I think I got over that.

Blatti: The reporting nun sounds kind of interesting.

Butcher: And I remember one of the pastors came to our class one day and was asking people,

what did they want to be? How many people wanted to be nuns and priests and, and, somehow

it came up, you know, I was called upon and I said, “I want to be a, a writer.”

Someone said, “You could be a nun, and you could be a writer, too.”

So obviously they were trying to encourage, encourage vocations. And, ironically, I have a

cousin who's the same age as I am and also went to St. Henry's, and we were in the same, in

the same grade, but not in the same class. And she did go on to become a nun. But then she,

she later left the convent.

So, you know, I went a totally different, different direction. And got to where I wanted to go,

maybe in a more of a straight line than what she ultimately did.

Blatti: When you were, you know, say fourth or fifth grade, thinking about being a reporter, did

you have any, do you remember what you thought that meant?

Butcher: You know, I think from an early age on, when I, when I got this idea of becoming a

reporter, I must have thought that sounded very glamorous. And of course,

Blatti: Brenda Starr in the newspapers.

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Butcher: You can't grow up in this country, yeah, without being very tuned in to, like, Lois Lane

and Clark Kent and Superman and Brenda Starr.

So I guess, you know, I somewhere along the way got these images of Lois Lane and Brenda

Starr, and that's what I wanted to be when I grew up. Plus, I read a lot of books. I sort of loved to

read the Nancy Drew series of books by Carolyn Keene. I guess I always loved that idea of a

woman being the protagonist or being very independent-minded, you know, and having their

own career, having her own career.

Blatti: Do you remember other stories, other books that, from that time in your life, or other

stories that you liked reading as well?

Butcher: You know, it's funny, I've been trying to search back in my memory bank, and I haven't

thought of any in particular. I just remember how I used to go to the library all the time. I was

always checking out lots of, lots of fiction books from a very young age, probably first or second

grade.

Blatti: Did you remember early stories or essays that you wrote when you were a kid?

Butcher: I remember one of my assignments in grade school was to write a paper on the Seven

Wonders of the World. And, I believe I got an A on it, but I put a lot of work into it.

Blatti: So did you have encyclopedias and a kind of report on what those things were, the

seven wonders or something?

Butcher: I think I had to go to the library to get those. We had a certain number of books

around our house, but probably, probably not too many reference books. But you know, the

library was in some ways maybe a great second home in the sense of a place to hang around, a

place to, to get information.

And I hadn't really thought about it until now that we're talking about it, but you know, I mean,

when you go into the reporting business, that's all you're doing is seeking information, and

obviously, I acquired an interest in that pretty early on.

Blatti: Were there, you know, you mentioned your neighbor across the street, who had the

same first name as your mother, as being a person you were really close to. And I wondered if

there were other, like, if there were teachers or neighbors, other neighbors who were important,

role models or mentors, and kind of, as you were growing up, people whom you consulted with

or admired a great deal?

Butcher: Well, you mentioned before you asked me about teachers, which teachers might have

had an impression on me or inspired me. I, I remember my kindergarten teacher very well. She

was a very sweet woman named Miss Norseworthy, and her name is always stuck in my mind, I

think. And I was very impressed with her as my first contact with the world of education.

And she was a very upbeat sort of personality. And I think, encouraged kids to have fun while

they learned. And then in the Catholic schools, I remember, Sister Mary Bellman, and she got

her name. She was named after St. Robert Bellman.

Blatti: I don't know who that is.

Butcher: Well, I don't know either, necessarily, but I just know that that was where she picked

her name.

They picked their names from usually from a man's name, who, like Sister Mary Joseph or

whatever they like to name. So she became Sister Mary Bellman, and I just remember that she

was, I think she was somebody that just really gave me a lot of, positive feedback about my, you

know, my academics. I can remember, you know, staying after school, erasing the boards for

her and things like that. And just had the feeling that that somehow she gave me a little nudge

of confidence, you know, that that I was a good student, and then I could do well.

And then later on in high school, I had my journalism instructor, I think was a real important

figure for me. His name was Jack McNamara, and he was, he was, you know, a relatively young

teacher at the high school level. And I worked on the school paper for quite a few terms. And,

you know, he was the advisor on the, the, the paper, which is called the Rail Splitter.

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Blatti: Now, was this in Lincoln Park Public School, or was this…?

Butcher: Yes. After I graduated from St. Henry, I went to Lincoln Park High and, I began my, my

journalism career. I guess at that point, I would say, because I took journalism classes as soon

as I was eligible. I'm not quite sure when that was, 9th or 10th grade. But I was on the staff of

the school paper from the point on when I started taking those classes and became a coeditor in

my senior, senior year, but probably when I was about a junior, I started writing a weekly column

for the (inaudible) newspapers, which is a chain of downriver papers. And they had one that was

called the Lincoln Parker. So they had correspondents from the different high schools that would

write about events that were going on in their schools.

And I wrote this column, a weekly column about Lincoln Park High with another student, a male

student named Steve Bodner. And we would generally write them together, or he would come

to, to my house with a typewriter, and we would sit in the kitchen, and we would, we would have

gathered our notes and done our interviews during the week, and then we would get together

and put them together. And then once in a while, you know, we might write one individually.

But I think we were paid like $0.10 a column inch for that newspaper column, and we had two of

us. Yeah, you can tell we didn't get too rich on it.

Blatti: This would be the late 50s, that you..?

Butcher: Well, actually, yeah, that would be. Yeah. And, and then, you know, you're splitting it

with another person. So, the column might have, you know, if it was 18in long, you have $1.80,

or 24in long, you have $2.40, or whatever it was. We didn't, we didn't get rich. We found out

early that journalism was not a high-paying profession.

Blatti: One thing I wondered, this is coming out of some of the work that I've done in Minnesota

on a different kind of research, but I wondered if you thought about it now, was being educated

by Catholic sisters, as you were growing up, some kind of indication of kind of what women

could do? Or were they really kind of part of the wallpaper of your life? Was that just to be

expected? Did you see the, the sisters who taught you as a kind of a source of inspiration about

education itself, or was that just the way things were?

Butcher: Oh, I think that probably the Catholic education or that particular school with those

particular nuns was, was very good for my, my, development in the sense that I think that they

had pretty high standards of quality, pretty high expectations of performance. And, and I, I see

the nuns as, you know, fairly, fairly strong women or women with strong opinions anyway..

I do think it's, it's so much healthier now that they don't have to be hidden away behind their

habits, you know. At that time, they would wear a full, full habit and, you know, there were

somewhat, I think, maybe separated from, from their students and from the community, by

having to wear these, these symbols, the symbolic uniform.

But, I, I guess I would say, if I think about it now, I would feel that I had a very good education at

that school, and of course, that there must have been a few lay teachers that we had along the

way. I, I have a pretty positive view of most of the nuns, and in my experience in that school.

Blatti: Did you feel well prepared for the, the, the world that you entered in the public school?

Butcher: Oh, yeah. No doubt about it. But see, by this point, I, I guess I had a record of, you

know, being a pretty good student. And so I had an expectation, I think, of myself that I would do

well academically, and it just seemed to naturally evolve that I, I gravitated to the writing

classes, the English classes, and things like that, where I seem to do pretty well.

Blatti: Are there things you actually didn't do well in? I mean, for reasons, this is very

stereotypical, and I don't mean to, to imply this, but were hard sciences not interesting or

difficult?

Butcher: Well, I didn't really want to get into a lot of the science courses, because it didn't have

much appeal or interest. I didn't want to take biology, for example, because I didn't want to

dissect any frogs. I did take physics. And I think I, I did okay there. I got either an A or a B, but I

didn't find it, I did not find that easy. I did well, I think, in math in general, but, you know, I wasn't

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particularly interested in chemistry or biology. And I did take, I think, one home-ec class

because that was sort of, you know, encouraged at that point. So we did some sewing projects,

and we did some cooking things. But unfortunately, I never became the great cook that my mom

was.

Blatti: Did.. You mentioned working on the school paper as soon as you could, and did you do

that all the way through?

Butcher: Yes, I did, and as I mentioned, I became a coeditor my senior year. I was coeditor with

a woman named Janet Troy. And, I felt, I found that pretty satisfying, writing for the school paper

and writing for The Lincoln Parker. I had a little bit of status, I suppose, doing that, because

when I worked for the for The Lincoln Parker, they would use, you know, use a photo in there

and, you know, it gave me an opportunity to meet other students and meet some of the, the

faculty, to, you know, to do my interviews.

You know, in some ways, I was, I'd say, I was probably pretty shy in high school and in my early

college years. But I continued working on my school paper when I got into college. And, in lots

of ways, I think journalism was very good for me in terms of bringing me out of myself to talk to

other people, because you, you're asking a lot of questions to, to get information, you have to

ask a lot of questions. And with practice, you know, it becomes easier all the time. It did for me.

Blatti: Did you do other activities as well as, as the school paper? Were you involved in sports,

dramatics, or some of the other activities that usually go along with high school and college?

Butcher: I didn't participate in any other clubs that I can recall. I, I attended a lot of the sporting

events with my friends and, you know, took, took part in school dances and school parties and

things like that. But I didn't have another particular strong avocation.

Blatti: One of the questions I wanted to ask was whether you thought it made a difference that

you were a girl, as you were kind of growing up and kind of entering into this world of both

education and journalism? And it interests me that you were the coeditor of the paper. Was that

a pretty common situation for the editors to be girls? There wasn't the sense that this was a

male activity or…?

Butcher: No, I think, yeah, that that is pretty interesting. Probably fairly typically, it might be one

girl and one boy. But it just so happened, I think, that year that we were the two best candidates.

So we got it.

Did I find it made a difference being a girl? I think, I think, I think I always had a sense that it

might be a little tougher being a girl to get the same opportunities in terms of careers, college

careers.

Because at that, at that point, you know, it was still more common for most women not to work

outside the home. And if they did, it might be for a short period only until they got married and

had children and stayed home to raise their family. So I think, you know, I was encouraged to

have a career by my parents, to be well trained, well educated, well trained, well prepared, to

have a career. But on the other, the other hand, there was always the feeling, I think, on their

part that, you know, I would get married and have a family, and then maybe I wouldn't work after

that, you know.

So, I think looking back now on say high school and college, and I don't know how, how much

younger this might have occurred to me, but I think, I think I did feel it was important to, to be

educated, important to be able to support myself. But I also think had the feeling that I might get

married and I might not work full-time or might not work after having, having kids. And of course,

it sort of turned out differently.

I got my, my marriage and my kids later in life, and I was very much involved in a career at that

point, and I, and it wouldn't have occurred to me not to be a working woman. You know,

because I have been all my adult life.

Blatti: Did you, did you know, for instance, did any of your brother's wives, older brother’s wives

work outside the home after marriage and after children? Did you have any kind of role models

in, in some of your older siblings’ families?

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Butcher: Yeah, I think all of them, all of my sisters-in-law have worked outside the home.

Some more than others. Some took time off, you know, when their kids were in their kids early

years or later years. But they all had, they all worked at one, you know, one occupation or

another. So I think, you know, I was, I was fortunate I was, I was growing up in an era where it

became more common that women did work outside the home, although it seemed that they

didn't always continue working outside the home once they had kids. And then they might

reenter the job market later.

But at least there was acceptance that women, you know, didn't just get married and stay home

all the time. It was much more, a feeling that women were going to work at least a portion, I

think, of their adult life or their married life.

Blatti: Did you have any sense, I mean, as you were growing up, that like, male and female

siblings in your family got different messages about the, you know, about private life and public

life or about what their educations were supposed to do for them?

Butcher: Well, I, I don't, I think that education was stressed to all of us. But I, I think that there

probably were, you know, some subtle messages that I got from observing kind of the way men

and women were treated.

I had much more feeling that women were supposed to really look after men. And I guess one

little episode that that strikes me as a good example of this is that when I was old enough, my

mother started to teach me how to iron, and, you know, after a certain period of time, you know,

she sort of, sort of expected me to iron my own blouses and, and clothing and, and things like

that. And then once in a while, I would help her with my brother’s shirts.

And I can remember at least one occasion where she would take down the shirts after I had

ironed them and then touch them up so they would be more perfectly ironed. I think that gave

me a message that somehow, you know, this is real critical that they look, that their clothes be

absolutely perfectly ironed and, and, I mean. And they didn't even have to do it, but somebody

would do it for them, their mother or their sister or their wife, most likely. So I mean, that was just

maybe a little lesson, but it was very powerful, and it was like, you know, it's not like she would

take my blouses down and, and make them perfect.

But it was, it was, something like they really had to, to really had to look good or their shirts had

to look perfect. I think were just sort of subtle things like that was more like, you know, I think,

my brothers ended up having to do dishes and things like that as I did. But I, I sensed, I sensed

more of a, an expectation that the girls in the family would be the ones to help, prepare the food,

and serve the food, and set the tables, and those kinds of things, you know?

So, I mean, our family was very traditional, and, in that sense, that was a, you know, a big area

of emotional satisfaction for my mother, you know, to be able to prepare a great meal and, and

serve a wonderful dinner.

And just, you know, there wasn't really much expectation that, you know, the guys would get too

involved, but, you know, we might be sitting in the kitchen with my sisters or sisters-in-law, as a

group, you know, peeling potatoes or cleaning the strawberries or whatever task would be there,

and those would tend to be female tasks, no doubt about it.

Blatti: What would the men be doing while this was happening?

Butcher: Well, they might be watching sports on T.V., or they might be sitting out in the yard

gabbing. It's hard to recall exactly what they would be doing, but they would be doing something

fun, no doubt.

Blatti: Do you, have any memories of a point in your life when you were growing up that, you

begin to have any sense of, a responsibility to family or community or to some kind of wider

world that, that, that you saw yourself in some ways as contributing to a world that, as a reporter

or, or otherwise that somehow you had a responsibility to, to inform or to participate in, in some

way that you saw yourself as public in some sense?

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Butcher: I think maybe those kinds of ideas might have occurred, you know, at a later point.

I guess the, the, the writing I've always seen as a way to connect with other people, to, you

know, tell the truth or tell stories of other people's experiences or lives, and I think that that felt

like something, you feel like you have a certain amount of power and you have a certain amount

of responsibility when you do that. But you, you have a certain privilege to be able to do that, as

well.

Blatti: Do you need to get that?

[Tape pauses]

Blatti: Now, you were saying that when I'd ask about this question about feeling connected, that

you had some thoughts about that.

Butcher: Yeah, I wanted to add something about my parents had a very deep love for this

country, and they're very, felt very privileged, I think, to, to live in the United States, having come

from Eastern Europe and knowing a lot of, you know, hardship and privation as young people.

And I mean, they felt that their U.S. citizenship was like the most valuable thing in the world to

them and to their kids.

And so, it's hard to say directly how you know, how that impacted me, except that I have always

highly valued that, too. I mean, I, I, I learned that I think at an early age that, you know, we were

among the luckiest people in the world to be living in the United States, to have the freedoms

that we have in the States, probably a free press, as we do, free flow of information. I think

those things were things that I, I certainly picked up from my parents’ experience.

And, only recently, when they did restore Ellis Island, we had the opportunity to, to, have our

parents’ names put on the wall of immigrants there. And so, you know, I certainly wanted to, I

wanted to do that because I know how valuable, how, how much they valued this country and

their ability to live in this country and to have U.S. citizenship, no matter where you live.

Blatti: Now, I've asked lots of questions about your, your kind of early years, and I wondered if,

and, you know, I've pretty much asked the questions I intended to in this session, and I wonder

if there are things that you would want to add? If there are things that I've maybe reminded you

of, or any kind of observation at all that you would want to add?

Butcher: I don't, I don't know how much you want me to discuss about my, my parents, but I

think there are two, two things that stand out in my mind about my parents in the sense of what

risks and what sacrifices they made just even coming to this country.

Because my dad, as I mentioned, came when he was about ten years old. His father had come

ahead of him, and then he came over with an aunt, and he left…. He had one sister that also

came over. He’d had a younger brother that had died in a fire. But he left home at age ten, and

he told me the story that his, his mother died, I think, relatively shortly after he came to the

country, this country. And they, they said that she died of a broken heart, because she was

separated from her family. And he told me this story when he was, like, maybe in his 70s or his

80s. We talked about it, and he said that he couldn't quite remember his mother's face.

[Mary Lou tears up] And I always think about how tough it must have been to be a little kid and

to have to make that sacrifice of being separated from your mother.

And then I think about my mother, that she was real courageous kind of person because I found

out not from her, but from my last surviving uncle, who was her, her youngest brother. He was

about five when they left Hungary. It was during World War I when they came, and my mother

was about 15 or 16, and they had to take a train through a border town to, or to the neighboring

country or however they were going to Amsterdam to leave. And at one of the, I think it was the

German border, they challenged her and her age, and they said they didn't believe that she was

only 15 or 16, that she must be older than that, and she must be an adult, and therefore she

couldn't leave with the rest of the family.

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And so they, they made her get off the train, and my uncle and his two brothers and my

grandmother all saw her leaving and thought they would never see her again.

And somehow she got it. She got into the train station, and somehow she escaped and

somehow got back on the train. And, you know, my uncle said that it was not that they didn't

believe her age, it was that they thought they had a young woman that they could just get their

hands on. And I've always kind of thought that showed a lot of pluck and courage on her, her

part to somehow take that risk and escape.

And even though, you know, it's funny, you know, I never even heard the story directly from her,

but it says a lot to me about the kind of woman she was that she really wanted that opportunity

to be in this country and to, and to have the freedom that we have here.

So those kinds of things I would just kind of like to share about my, my family. I think that my

parents were two remarkable people, and they, you know, they always worked hard, I think, to

give us what they couldn't have and, probably, one of the biggest gifts was that feeling that, you

know, you can do whatever you want to do, if you work hard enough for it, and, and that

education was something to really, to prize as a, as a tool to get you where you're going, where

you want to go.

Blatti: Are there other things you want to add?

Butcher: I think that would be fine.

Blatti: I think the place to stop for today.

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